Thoughts and ponderings.

➡ At a mental level we get over resentment and forgive people when we feel they 'belong' to us, or understand in some way that we are responsible for them. And not in a negative way or controlling way.  But, that there is this understanding of holding another's heart and being responsible for it as if it were part of you. 

➡ We can be secure in our differences then because building up another builds up ourselves and tearing down another tears down ourselves.

➡ The closest relationships are when we feel we belong to another and feel a gentle - never pushy - responsibility toward the other, like that of a loving sibling or a loving parent. There is a responsibility then that surpasses our own personal preferences alone because our preferences are now that of the one who belongs to us - our beloved. It is at once empowering and humbling.  Because you empty yourself only to get remade and refilled in communion with another. And this is the heart of unity.