“Unforgiveness is a form of self-harm.”
Forgiveness and unforgiveness are life vs. death. Unforgiveness is tied to death because it is a slow-walked spiritual suicide – just what the devil wants.
Unforgiveness continues the wound from an original injustice, be it big or small, intended, or just an ignorant lie. After an attack, unforgiveness beats the offender to the next punch by attacking the wounded again, and often harder. It is self-harming control.
Forgiveness is accepting self-stewardship again under the love of God. Forgiveness is a God-given authority over oneself. God gives us each this authority, but when we do not forgive we give this authority away to Satan. Forgiveness is a detachment from the web that sin tries to trap one in. It is a knowledge of the intellect and choice of the will not to cooperate with death. It is hope in the loving power of God and anticipation of the new good that will come.
Thank you, God, for our unique lives that You have destined for good plans to glorify You who are Everything Good. We pray for the grace to forgive, even if we don’t feel like it. We pray to be freed of the desire to wound ourselves with unforgiveness. We pray for the grace to honor ourselves as children of God and to reject the lies and labels of this passing world's illusions. We as sinners ourselves kneel at the foot of the Cross and plead the protective blood of Jesus over us. Amen.
Thoughts and ponderings.
➡ At a mental level we get over resentment and forgive people when we feel they 'belong' to us, or understand in some way that we are responsible for them. And not in a negative way or controlling way. But, that there is this understanding of holding another's heart and being responsible for it as if it were part of you.
➡ We can be secure in our differences then because building up another builds up ourselves and tearing down another tears down ourselves.
➡ The closest relationships are when we feel we belong to another and feel a gentle - never pushy - responsibility toward the other, like that of a loving sibling or a loving parent. There is a responsibility then that surpasses our own personal preferences alone because our preferences are now that of the one who belongs to us - our beloved. It is at once empowering and humbling. Because you empty yourself only to get remade and refilled in communion with another. And this is the heart of unity.
Praise be the God of Leah, the daughter of Laban. Who was unloved and her sister, beloved of Jacob. This is the one who God the Father looked at her and said: this is the one I choose to be the foremother of my beloved Son. The Son of God. The Merciful Lamb and Mighty King. This is the one who will give me praise.
“Once more she conceived and bore a son, and she said, “This time I will give thanks to the Lord”; therefore she named him Judah.” Genesis 29:35
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